Let's Pretend This Never Happened

Author: Jenny Lawson

One-sentence summary: Blogger Jenny Lawson writes about her unique childhood, current life and challenges with wit and humor.

B.A.D. Girls Book Rating: 5

Our favorite thing about it: It was funny in parts.

Our least favorite thing about it: The rest was not funny or interesting and the writing style (if you can call it that) got annoying.

Main Topics of Discussion: Writing Style, Humor, Blogs becoming books, dealing with difficulties, honesty

Our favorite quote: “Having one dead animal in the house is eclectic and artistic. More than one reeks of serial killer. There really is a fine line there."

Notes: We found this book pretty funny in parts, especially toward the beginning. At first the writing style helped the humor along and the self-deprecation of the author was good for a few laughs. And then in wasn’t. Basically, the writing style was very much stream of consciousness or how someone would talk who can’t stay on track with a story. There were so many diversions, PPPPPS’s and random foot notes that it became disorienting. While we were decidedly not offended by any of the language or numerous mentions of vagina, we felt like they were trying too hard for humor instead of being meaningful words that added to the story. One thing we did appreciate was the author’s way of dealing with difficult situations with humor. While that may not work for everyone, we could appreciate how that helped her deal with life. In a nutshell, we felt like this author is much better in blog format. Compiling all these stories into a book was just too much of that style at one time. If read individually, and over time, we felt like we might have appreciated the content a little more. Maybe.

Memorable Meeting Moments: This was our Christmas meeting and it was at Christina’s house! Her Christmas decorations set the mood for our gift giving and our festive meal. We also did a book exchange, as always, and Christina did our Jeopardy year-in-review game for us this year.

What We Ate: Rosemary Baked Brie with Honey and Candied nuts, Pot Roast, Red Potatoes, Cauliflower, Green Salad, Dill Carrots, Brussels sprouts, and a Pumpkin Roll for dessert

Orphan Train

Author: Christina Baker Kline

One-sentence summary: Two orphan girls, generations apart, become friends as we learn their stories, heartbreaks, and triumphs.

B.A.D. Girls Book Rating: 7

Our favorite thing about it: The historical aspects, especially learning about the actual orphan train.

Our least favorite thing about it: That the end was so abrupt and kind of fell flat.

Main Topics of Discussion: History, Orphans, Foster System, Child Labor, Rape, Family

Our favorite quote: “I learned long ago that loss is not only probable but inevitable.”

Notes: We were really interested in the history of the orphan train and were surprised to find out that it was a real thing. It was also interesting – as well as heartbreaking – to learn the way orphans were viewed…as evil and burdens on society. They were basically dealt with in any way possible. And that meant that many of them ended up being child laborers for families who took in an orphan just to use them for labor. It also meant that they may have lived in harsh or abusive homes and environments with little to no accountability on the families with which they were placed. Vivian’s story, especially of her early years, taught us all about this from her perspective. It was a very rich, emotionally charged story.

Flipping back to present day with Molly, we learned a little bit about what it might be like to be a foster child. Some of her feelings were eye-opening to us and such an interesting perspective. That she always had to ask for everything, never felt like she could be her true self, and lived in fear of rejection, was terrible and revealing. Living in survival mode for both girls was exhausting for them.

As the story began to wind up to the climax and then to the ending, Vivian’s tragedy continued into her young adult life even though she had found a loving set of adoptive parents. She made a difficult decision out of fear of loss again that haunted her for the rest of her life. For both Molly and Vivian, their friendship was rewarding and the ending allowed some resolution for both of them. However, when it came to the ending, we felt it was just a little bit rushed compared to the pace of the rest of the story. And maybe because of that, it just fell a little flat to us. It was not as emotionally charged as the rest of the story so we felt that it didn’t do the rest of the story justice to end like that. Not that the ending itself was bad, just that the writing didn’t flesh out things like we had been used to. Overall, a great read and a book we’d definitely recommend.

Memorable Meeting Moments: We had our potluck Thanksgiving meal. We took selfies outside in the SNOW! Stephanie hosted and crotched placemats for her table…beautiful!

What We Ate: Turkey and Ham, Dressing, Rolls, Green Bean Casserole, Sweet Potatoes, Cauliflower Casserole, Creamed Corn, and Pumpkin Cake with cream cheese frosting

Defending Jacob

Author: William Landay

One-sentence summary: A DA with a hidden past is thrown into turmoil when his son is charged with murder.

B.A.D. Girls Book Rating: 6

Our favorite thing about it: We wanted to find out what happened in the story. Until we did.

Our least favorite thing about it: The story was just so-so and we liked NONE of the characters.

Main Topics of Discussion: Parental Love and Loyalty, Honesty, Story Development, Murder

Our favorite quote: “I admit--no one worth knowing can be quite known, no one worth possessing can be quite possessed.”

Notes: None of us quite loved this book. Some of us really didn’t like it. First of our two main complaints: 1) There was no climax to the story. It seemed as if it was building to something – and something did happen in the end – but it just was kind of meh. Not compelling, not very realistic (in our opinion), and nothing was revealed, which was what you really wanted from the ending. 2) The characters were all flat, typical characterizations and none of them were likable at all. We need someone to relate to or to like in a story to really care about it. And the male/female generalizations came across as condescending (on both counts) to us.

Memorable Meeting Moments: We met at Chiloso and celebrated Lindsay’s birthday. Amberly brought a yummy cheesecake with berry topping to the restaurant for us. Then, we went to see Gone Girl together since we’d read that book as an earlier pick.

What We Ate: Chiloso...and cheesecake!

Me Before You

Author: Jojo Moyes

One-sentence summary: A young woman takes a much needed job taking care of a quadriplegic man who changes her views on life, love, and compassion.

B.A.D. Girls Book Rating: 8 (unanimous rating)

Our favorite thing about it: Compelling, well-written story.

Our least favorite thing about it: Maybe (we’re reaching) that it’s a challenging subject-matter (but we kind of liked that too).

Main Topics of Discussion: Selflessness, Relationships, Compassion, Disability, Grief

Our favorite quote: “Some mistakes... Just have greater consequences than others. But you don't have to let the result of one mistake be the thing that defines you.”

Notes: We really loved this book. The story was interesting and kept us wanting to read more. The characters were relatable and well-developed. The subject matter, while difficult, doesn't shy away from realistic emotions, etc. The dialogue was well-written and interesting and we felt the ending was authentic.

The author really did a great job of getting us inside the mind of a quadriplegic, which was insightful and emotional. We also really related well to the mother character. Although she was not likable, her emotions and actions were mostly realistic to us.

Despite the heavy subject matter, we found ourselves laughing out loud in places as we read. The fact that the author could balance humor like that with life and death questions made the book that much better. Overall, we thought this was a quick, easy, engaging, and really well-done novel.

Memorable Meeting Moments: Poor Stephanie drove to the wrong house at first. We celebrated Dara’s birthday month. And Amberly managed to pick our next book on the fly!

What We Ate: Cornbread, Chili Tortellini Soup, Green Salad, Pumpkin Cream Cheese Brownies with Chocolate Ganache

The Language of Flowers

Author: Vanessa Diffenbaugh

One-sentence summary: A displaced and lonely young woman finds friendship and love but doesn’t know how to accept it.

B.A.D. Girls Book Rating: 8

Our favorite thing about it: The emotional honesty and intensity.

Our least favorite thing about it: Again, hard to select something here…maybe that it’s so realistic as to be almost depressing.

Main Topics of Discussion: Motherhood, guilt, family, home, trust, ability to love

Our favorite quote: “Perhaps the unattached, the unwanted, the unloved, could grow to give love as lushly as anyone else.”

Notes: This was a very emotional read, but we felt like it was written really well. Although we became frustrated with the choices the main character made, we ultimately felt like they were very realistic for her background of abandonment, loneliness, and guilt. We actually appreciated the insight into a girl who had no family, no home, and who did not know how to love. We thought the main character was really interesting and not a flat character at all. The ending, while it was mainly “good” was not necessarily “tidy” as it left in the air how exactly things would work out…only that they would work on it. We liked that and felt it to be really honest and a great way to end the book.

Memorable Meeting Moments: We met at Brooklyn’s Pizza and then went back to Lindsay’s house for Dara’s cookies and some ice cream…as well as our book discussion.

What We Ate: Brooklyn’s Pizza, Dara’s cookies, ice cream

What Alice Forgot

Author: Liane Moriarty

One-sentence summary: A 30-something mother and near-divorcee wakes up from hitting her head in spinning class not remembering the last 10 years of her life.

B.A.D. Girls Book Rating: 8

Our favorite thing about it: We really enjoyed the story and storytelling.

Our least favorite thing about it: Hard to pick something…maybe that some of the changes in Alice seemed exaggerated beyond what would be realistic…even for 10 years.

Main Topics of Discussion: Change, communication, infertility, grief, friendship, boundaries, parenting

Our favorite quote: “Love after children, after you've hurt each other and forgiven each other, bored each other and surprised each other, after you've seen the worst and the best...-well, that sort of love is ineffable. It deserves its own word.”

Notes: We really loved this book and found very little to pick out that we didn't like. We felt like the ending was satisfying, yet realistic. The relationships described – all of them – seemed realistic as well as the dangers of not prioritizing your relationships. The book did not present people’s actions and choices as black and white, which we appreciated. Alice’s sister’s infertility was written with insight and perception into that special kind of grief. We loved the theme of memory and the especially poignant and interesting descriptions of threads of memories and how those tie/bind. Overall, this was a very fast, fun read with more depth to it than at first glance. There is a lot here to discuss.

Memorable Meeting Moments: We were at the lake house when we discussed this book.

What We Ate:

6th Annual Lake House Trip

This year we went to the Fair's Lake House again on a Thursday night so that we would have 2 full days to relax.

When we left, we were not expecting it to be chilly...but it was. This was the end of JULY. Brrr.

We stopped at Chick-fil-A for some treats (for some) and dinner (for others) before making it out to the lake house just in time for bed...we were tired. The next day, we took our time getting up, making breakfast, eating...and then relaxing at the pool.

It was too cool to swim (for us), so we happily lounged poolside...for the whole day.



The weather was actually gorgeous and we read, chatted and napped.

While we were at the lake house, we celebrated Christina's birthday. Amberly bought her this stellar book...which gave us all a good laugh once she explained it was a gag gift!

As we do every year, we had our yummy shredded beef tacos. These are Amberly's beautifully constructed tacos.

We also roasted marshmallows and made s'mores since we were able to get the fire pit lit this year. 

We had another wonderful weekend of relaxation and time together. 

On our way home, we stopped in downtown Ft. Worth to have our photo taken as a group for the western photo wall at the lake house. It was a fun experience for sure. 

After the photo, we stumbled upon Tim Love's Love Shack and decided to grab lunch. Boy was that a happy accident. The burgers were fantastic and we loved our lunch. Then it was back on the road for the sad trip home. Until next year!